How Your New Year’s Resolutions Can Obliterate The Should Have, Could Have, Would Have Syndrome

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As we prepare to drawn the curtain on 2016 and roll out the red carpet for the new year, it’s time for us to reflect on the past 366 days. Another year to store in the archives. How did you fare?

THE SHOULD HAVE, COULD HAVE, WOULD HAVE SYNDROME

Are you beaming with pride or has the unsavoury combination of disappointment and regret left a sour taste in your mouth? You won’t be the first and you certainly won’t be the last to endure a gnarly episode of the should have, could have, would have syndrome. Fortunately, this doesn’t have to be a life long condition. You can flick the switch at any time and rid yourself of this goal-inhibiting disease.

WRITE THE TITLE OF YOUR NEXT CHAPTER

Although you may fantasise about CTRL+Zing certain events of your life when regret settles in, the reality is that you can’t. What you can do is learn from your mistakes and take solace in the fact that you have full editing rights over your future. You’re the architect. The artist. The writer. The dancer. Remember that. Go forth and design, paint, write and dance your way into the future you crave.

The age old tradition of setting new year’s resolutions is one I’ve come to cherish. For me, the ability to write the title of your next chapter and then proceed to live it is truly liberating. Obviously, there will be elements that lie outside your control and present somewhat of a challenge, but it’s all part and parcel of the journey. Fulfilling a goal that once posed a myriad of obstacles will deliver far more satisfaction than a goal that failed to extract any blood, sweat and tears, so to speak.

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If you play it safe in life, you’ve decided that you don’t want to grow anymore. – Shirley Hufstedler

 

DON’T LET YOUR RESOLUTION BECOME A BIN MAGNET

If you consider the track record of the human population, new year’s resolutions hold somewhat of a bin magnet status and require a robust level of persistence to deactivate the bin attraction that exists by default. I wasn’t always a member of the resolution-keeping club, but I feel as though I’ve earned myself a membership after scoring two consecutive goals. If you want to lift your resolution-keeping game and avoid a case of forgotten or failed resolutions, you need to set realistic expectations and formulate an action plan from the very beginning. It’s not enough to define your objective, you need to determine how you’re going to get there. If your lack of discipline is handcuffing your potential, give this formula a whirl (it has worked wonders for me).

SURRENDER THE REEL OF EXCUSES

If you’re ready to surrender your reel of excuses and kick some serious ass (yours), start rephrasing your thoughts. I can, I will, I did. Strut into 2017 with this attitude and do yourself proud. If you’re not where you want to be now, draw a map, pack some snacks, wear some comfortable sneakers and enjoy the journey ahead. When you hit a wall or when your inner couch potato attempts to inject you with the lazy tranquilliser – take a page out of Beyonce’s book.

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When I’m not feeling my best I ask myself, “What are you gonna do about it?” I use the negativity to fuel the transformation into a better me. – Beyonce

 

FEEL LIBERATED BY YOUR RENEWED SENSE OF PURPOSE

Often, figuring out what you want to achieve can be half the battle. Once you’ve sorted through your ever-evolving list of desires and aspirations and committed to at least one of them, you can walk into 2017 with a renewed sense of purpose and drive.

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It is so liberating to really know what I want, what truly makes me happy, what I will not tolerate. I have learned that it is no one else’s job to take care of me but me. – Beyonce

 

 

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